Can gays expect an increasing number of partners compared to women?
  • RadioRat RadioRat 2mo ago 100%

    I don’t think there’s much to see here. People are more comfortable expressing themselves as society becomes more accepting.

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  • you shouldn’t care about "optics"
  • RadioRat RadioRat 2mo ago 100%

    It’s really sinister to bully a group aggressively and then point when their mental health falters to justify the bullying.

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    how's your week going, Beehaw
  • RadioRat RadioRat 3mo ago 100%

    Couldn’t be better. Returned to work with no issues after completing a partial hospitalization program.

    Figured out I need to connect with the trans community again IRL to cope with the gestures at the news and the United States political discourse.

    Fortunately, that’s not so hard to do in the Twin Cities.

    Might write like a gonzo article about the Kafkaesque experience of trying to pretend everything is fine while the youth are dying and there’s real question about continued access to lifesaving medical care.

    That all probably sounds a bit dark but I am coping and maintaining optimism. I’m not ashamed of not being cis anymore and that’s a big deal for me.

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  • Beehaw decides: what *is* the set of all genders?
  • RadioRat RadioRat 3mo ago 100%

    I guess it depends on whether we’re willing to say a gender exists if theoretically possible though not ever embodied. Will artificial sapients have gender identities?

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  • RadioRat RadioRat 3mo ago 100%

    It’s just good to know true joy and exist in my body more often. It was really heavy for so long. I made small talk at a lab appointment prior to and at a haircut following group today.

    The hair stylist ended up being a specialist in sensory issues so it was very nice to have that kind of chill, mindful haircut. I nearly fell asleep!

    Oh! And I’m doing all this while dog tired from insomnia but I’m in a pretty good mood and getting more sleep every night 😸

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    How's your week going, Beehaw?
  • RadioRat RadioRat 3mo ago 100%

    Checked into a partial hospitalization program last week because my social anxiety and agoraphobia got too big to manage alone.

    The past few days have been perhaps the first I’ve felt joy and love in their full forms 😸

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  • Nonexistent moderation on Beehaw /c/neurodivergence
  • RadioRat RadioRat 4mo ago 100%

    Cluster B personality disorders have a heavy stigma because of the abusive behaviors so common to the disorders.

    It’s hard to have a neutral conversation about NPD if you have been traumatized by someone with NPD or other PDs. Personally, I will usually distance myself from anyone with cluster B traits to protect myself since those behaviors are very triggering for me. That’s more about me than it is about them.

    I also understand that personality disorders are some of the most painful disorders to have in virtue of the great human pain of the world taking issue with something that you are and can’t easily change. If you’ve got NPD and are in therapy, working on your behaviors, and striving not to harm others with your hurt, that’s commendable!

    When people complain about narcissists, they’re probably complaining about abuse perpetrated by narcissists. It’s an important distinction that isn’t commonly made. Nobody wants to devote care and understanding to somebody they see and unlikely or incapable of reciprocating. But that’s an asshole assumption to make.

    It’s pretty disheartening to see a community that’s big on inclusivity respond judgmentally and FWIW, I’m glad you shared the article. At the same time, I would strive not to take the backlash personally.

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  • What is this weird pop up image of a keyboard on my screen?
  • RadioRat RadioRat 6mo ago 100%

    It seems to happen when the link image is gif or webm. I’m on mobile safari and get a black popup with the image in question in top left corner when I load a beehaw page that has a link like this. Can tap to make it go away but it is jarring.

    Edit: here’s the example link

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  • It's all "ableism is bad! Support people with mental disorders!"...
  • RadioRat RadioRat 7mo ago 100%

    I hope people struggling with Cluster B personality disorders get the help they need. However, I’m too traumatized by abuse from people with these disorders to engage with anyone who exhibits the associated toxic behaviors.

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  • Ally in training...
  • RadioRat RadioRat 7mo ago 100%

    I think I can see the point of confusion- the reason for illustrating physical sex as a spectrum is that it’s easier to lay out the concept of gender identity as an analogue.

    It’s also possible that gender identity is structural but brains are complicated and linking mechanisms to behavior is hairy.

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  • Ally in training...
  • RadioRat RadioRat 7mo ago 100%

    To me it seems like the important question is:

    Why wouldn’t one do something that makes others feel valid/happy/comfortable for so little effort?

    It’s easy to respect name and pronoun preferences and admit when mistakes are made. One needn’t to dive into the full nuance and complexity of trans experience to understand that.

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  • World Central Kitchen halts operations in Gaza after strike kills staff
  • RadioRat RadioRat 7mo ago 100%

    It was intentional. WCK coordinated with the IDF on the route plan.

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  • Children to no longer be prescribed puberty blockers, NHS England confirms
  • RadioRat RadioRat 7mo ago 97%

    Kids are going to die because of this.

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  • House Bill 500 Takes Away Kentucky Workers’ Lunch and Rest Breaks and Cuts Their Pay - Kentucky Center for Economic Policy
  • RadioRat RadioRat 8mo ago 100%

    Not surprised the state responsible for Mitch McConnell is really good at voting counter to its best interests.

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  • Good chair that is *affordable* ?
  • RadioRat RadioRat 8mo ago 100%

    Got a refurbished steelcase for ~300 with no regrets.

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  • Tech Job Interviews Are Out of Control
  • RadioRat RadioRat 8mo ago 100%

    Probably by design, to be honest. Jobs tend to be very anti-parent, especially in US states where FMLA is legally protected.

    I’m fortunate to work for a company that has a culture of prioritizing real life so you can do your best work. Sadly, that’s antithetical to next quarter thinking, so it’s not the norm.

    The dumb thing is (in my experience) parents seem to work harder and stay at companies for longer than childless folks. They’re just shorter on free time and need some basic flexibility to address emergent issues. Not to mention being better at teaching and managing in general.

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  • Jon Stewart skewers Biden, Trump in ‘Daily Show’ return: ‘What the f‑‑‑ are we doing here?’
  • RadioRat RadioRat 8mo ago 100%

    Really hope there will be follow-up call to action and education on civic engagement and organizing. But not counting on it.

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  • Looking for tips on meeting trans / queer folk to be friends with
  • RadioRat RadioRat 9mo ago 100%
    • Facebook groups, unfortunately 😬
    • independent booksellers
    • meetup.com
    • Unitarian church
    • drag shows and gay bars
    • pride
    • dating apps
    • hormone clinics sometimes have info for support groups
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  • 23andMe’s Fall From $6 Billion to Nearly $0
  • RadioRat RadioRat 9mo ago 100%

    Don’t get sequenced and encourage your relatives to avoid as well. It’s not worth risking your genome getting leaked.

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  • We've been looking for each other for a great, long while and today is the day! It is really silly attach something so personally/spiritually meaningful to a random internet post that I'm making on a whim. But I guess I'm that sort of person. Just like you're the sort of person who has been looking for this post. It isn't necessarily a romantic thing (probably isn't - at least one of us is already partnered romantically), but meeting across the space and time today is the thing. It's like a letter expected in the mail or the thing one looks to stumble upon when scrolling. It's not the void that everyone assumes is a person-shaped hole to fill - that's something else. I'm not usually a spiritual kind of person and I don't often give the woo-woo part of my brain this much license. Maybe this is pure boredom and I'm just trying to poke reality with a stick. Reality is made up anyway, right? Fingers crossed that this post is at least one domino. Knowing each other is the thing for which we'd both trade (at least) a score of years living. We're the best of friends in a way that makes it worth grasping at fate. How do we know that I'm that me and you're that you? Guess we'll find out. Best wishes, warmest of regards, and with utmost sincerity, your friend Rat

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    Edit to add image description: A basset hound sleeps his side atop of a pile of blankets with his tongue poking out.

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    If you’re already living your dream life, please share as well! How do you most want to spend your time?

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